Leading by Example

Why do we try to change those around us? Whether we are doing so because we are close to them and love them and therefore want the best for them or we are trying to just get them into our camp, to get them on our side. Why do some many of us push and push instead of just showing others what can be done by doing it ourselves? Why do we not lead by example more and push less? If we really want people around us to follow our example, especially those we love, that is exactly what we should be doing.

Just show people what can be done

If I want to show how much your life can improve by becoming more self-reliant, I need to live a more self-reliant lifestyle, wouldn’t you say? When I go out to my garden and harvest all the greens and vegetables that we are going to eat that night, that action says more than if I were to just come down on someone for depending too much upon the food system. If we have friends over and they ask why our vegetables taste so much better than what they get at the grocery store, I can tell them that it’s because we grow them. Not only do we just grow them, we grow them for the nutrition and flavor, and not just to withstand weeks of transportation like commercial growers do. We grow them for our benefit, not solely for profit. I can also tell them how they can do it too. I can show them some good ways to start out and tell them of other benefits of producing at least some of what they eat.

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When something breaks, could you fix it?

Is that a strange question? If something in your house breaks, big or small, major or minor, could you fix it? Whether you could actually fix it or not, would you even try? Maybe that’s the question right there: would you try?

Do you try to fix something or do you “call a guy” to fix it?

I think this has to do with mindset just as much as skill, maybe more so. You may not know what you’re doing when the heating element goes out in your clothes dryer, but if you have the mindset of “I’m gonna damn well figure it out,” well, you’re probably gonna damn well figure it out. Especially in a time like today. You don’t even have to go down to the library to look up how to do something. Anything you could ever want to know has found its way onto the internet; from how to install a water heater to how to refinish a dining room table to how to build the table in the first place! The knowledge is out there and it is more accessible than ever before in the history of man. You just need to know where to look (which is not very hard) and you have to actually look for the information. Yes, you have to want to find it. You may laugh or think I’m being facetious, but I’m not. I know people that will use not knowing where to look for information as an excuse not to do something. Really? Type anything into any search engine and you will find something! Even if it’s not exactly what you’re looking for, it’s probably moving you in the right direction.

“I tried and it’s a no-go!”

So you tried it and you can’t figure it out. Well, you tried, you took whatever apart to get into it, but you either got stuck, you don’t have the tools you need, it’s just too complicated or dangerous and you

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Letting go of our biases

What would happen if people would let go of their preconceived ideas when analyzing a new thought, idea or thing?

I know we all have our own ideas and experiences that act as a filter through which we see everything else. Kind of like a filter in front of the lens on a camera, it changes how we will see the image when the picture is taken. The same is true with our preconceived notions and how they affect the way we will see an idea. And this is especially true for new ideas.

What if we could train ourselves to look at new ideas without that filter? To look at the pros and cons of an idea with a more open mind before dismissing it? Of course, preconceived ideas and experiences can be a good thing. If I jump off my roof and break my leg, I will most likely think about that experience if someone were to say “hey, we should go up on the roof and jump off.” That’s where it can be good. That’s not being stupid, especially if you’ve already done it and it turned out not so great. That’s not really what I’m talking about.

I’m talking about hearing or seeing something or an idea and skewing what it could become based on your biased view and not really seeing the idea for what it really is.

What got me thinking about this was a commenter on one of my posts – How can we change anything? The person basically missed the whole point of the post which was enacting change in things that you don’t like, whether in your own life or in your community. And if not changing something,

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